Sunday, February 28, 2010

Keep Your Husband Happy

Female Intuition
It comes natural to most females to have that mother instinct, that certain feeling that when something is wrong with your children you know it. Well you must use this same instinct with your mate.

You can read his body language, listen to his words and read between the lines when needed. Look into his eyes, watch his facial expressions. Just make sure you always notice if his habits are changing. Keep in tune with his needs and wants.

Be aware if he is not talking as much? Is he coming home later than usual? Is he drinking or smoking more? Is he avoiding answering his cell phone when he sees your number?

Well maybe it's time to put a little fire back into the romance and keep it there, to keep your husband Happy, before someone eles does.

Do What Comes Natural
1- Give him a good morning kiss or hug when he wakes up.

If you wake up beside him in the bed, snuggle next to him and put your head on his chest, and put his arm around you. He'll love that feeling of protecting you with his strong arm holding you close.

2- Listen to his same old stories and jokes again and again.

Sure you've heard them a million times, and sometimes you roll your eyes to the top of your head or mimic every word waiting for the end of an outcome you know too well. But just think back to when you first started dating or just got married and he told these funny or interesting little anecdotes.

Think about your smiles and your laughter you gave him then, come on you remember, come on, now bring those feelings to the present moment when he's on stage again. Enjoy the moment, and be the positive audience he wants and needs you to be. This will keep your husband happy.

3- Give him a shoulder massage when he comes home from work.

If you are there when he arrives, take his brief case or bag and set it down. Immediately start massaging his shoulders while he is standing. Lead him over to a chair and sit him down, while you continue to relax him. You don't have to be an expert masseuse.

This will help to ease the tension of a hard days work. As you are massaging him ask him how was his day. And really listen as he tells you. If you feel your massaging skills are a little rusty, no problem, just Google "massage techniques" for some ideas.

4- Buy him 2 tickets to his favorite Sports game.

What's his favorite sport? Every man seems to be interested in one sport or another. Does he like golf, baseball, basketball, football, hockey, soccor, rugby, drag racing... Whatever sport turns him on, treat him and his best buddy to tickets to an upcoming event. His buddy can be you or one of your children, or grand-dad or whomever he chooses.

If buying 2 tickets to his favorite sport is not in the budget, never fear, here is what you can do. Order a sports event on cable. This will be less expensive than the actual tickets, and your cable company will bill you later on your momthly bill.

No cable. No problem. Schedule some alone time for him to watch his favotite event on TV. Have some beer in the fridge or whatever his drink is. Have his favorite snacks on the table, and his favorite dinner ready for him, on a plate in the fridge as well. Tell him about the food, so he can pop it in the oven during half time.

Leave the house, take the kids and any other relatives and pets. Monitor the game from your car radio so you will know when to arrive back home. Go shopping, visiting, to a park, etc., enjoy your time away as well.

Give him at least 45 mins to an hour after the game is over before you return. This will give him time to savor the good feelings he has about enjoying his favorite sport. Plus it will give him a little time to himself, and a chance to start missing you as well. Doing this for him once in a while will definetly keep your husband happy.

Sweets For Your Sweets
5- Put his favorite candy on his pillow.

Once you or him have made the bed (just like they do at the hotels).leave him a treat. If you don't know what his favorite candy is that's ok for now. But he is your husband and this is something you must find out and add to your memory bank. Just notice what gum he always chews or what mint he likes and put one or two of these on or under his pillow now and then.

6- Bake him a birthday cake.

Hey, it's his birthday. Don't order a cake from the bakery. Simply find an easy cake recipe on Google, and bake the cake yourself. If you feel you don't have the time to do this or just dont want do. It's still easy. Go to any grocery store: Buy 1 box of Betty Crocker, Pillsbury or other cake mix. Follow the easy baking instructions on the package, Add icing to the finished cake and put your special message on the icing using a different color icing or a tube of icing (which is easy to write with).The tube of icing is easily found in the cake mix isle at almost any grocery store. He'll love that you took the time out to bake it yourself.

7- Help him watch his diet. Don't have too many sweets and fattening foods around the house. Always fix his favorite foods using low salt, low fat, low cholesteral, low calorie and low sugar whenever possible. Become an expert nutritionist for yourself, your husband and your other family members and friends.

Dont Take His Feelings For Granted
8- Don't ever disrespect him in front of his friends.

This is a definite NO NO. No matter what the disagreement or situation, wait until you both get alone to iron out the problem. This cannot be stressed enough. A man's male ego is a super powerful source of strength. If you knock his ego down in front of his friends or relatives. You may crush him so bad that it will be very hard for him to forgive you. He may want to forget about the incident but his friends may remind him, or just being around them can be a constant reminder of how you dissed him in their eyesight.

9- Don't bring the car back with the gas tank on almost empty.

If you use his car or the two of you share the car don't always let him be the one to fill up the gas tank. When possible get a fill up once in a while. If your money will not allow a fill up, at the very least put back the gas in the tank on the same gallon mark it was on when you started your errands .example: 1/4 tank, 1/2 tank, 3/4 tank etc.. You may not be able to do this everytime, but when you do he will appreciate it very much.

10- Don't talk while he's watching his favorite TV show.

If he initiates the conversation, be breif with your comments or answers to his questions. Don't add conversation about the kids and school problems, leaky faucet troubles, bill problems, etc. Treat his TV time just like you would if you were at the movie theatre, and quietly respect the relaxing and enjoyable atmosphere.

LOVE Is In The Air
11-Tell him you Love him.

It doesn't hurt to hear the words once in a while. When was the last time you told him? Just don't think that he is suppose to know you love him since you're still with him after all these years. Actually say the words "I Love You" to him daily or a few times a week. Watch the difference it makes in his love expressions to you.

12- Let Him Be The Man He Was Meant To Be.

Let him take care of you physically, financially, and gallantly. This will keep your husband happy. Chivalry is alive and well.

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